As Illinois state senator, Barack Obama was pro; as president, he's been anti … but is 'evolving'. So, evolve again already!

I was in New York last Friday night and headed down to the old Stonewall Inn, the birthplace of the LGBTQ civil rights movement. I joined thousands of others celebrating our big victory a week ago in the Empire State: yes, by a vote of 33 to 29 gay marriage passed the Republican controlled state senate just hours earlier, and Governor Andrew Cuomo had already signed it into law. All but one Democrat, Senator Rubén Díaz, voted for the bill. Four courageous Republican state senators voted yes for marriage equality to put it over the top. They stood up for equal rights for all Americans – as Republicans used to do and should do.

At the tip of Cape Cod is the LGBTQ-friendly haven Provincetown, fondly called P-town, and known as the best LGBTQ summer resort on the East Coast.

Of late, more lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ) people of color (POC) have not only begun vacationing in P-town, but we have also begun holding POC events.

For the past several years now, the "Women of Color Weekend" brings hundreds of us LBT sisters of color to P-town from all across the country.

And it is the one time of the year many of us make the journey to P-town, anticipating that we will feel safe enough, for a few days, to let down our guard.

While I will continue to argue that the African American community doesn’t have patent on homophobia, it does, however, have a problem with it.

And Tracy Morgan, comedian and actor on NBC’s "30 Rock," is another glaring example of the malady.

During a standup performance this month at the Ryman Auditorium in Nashville, Tennessee, Morgan’s "intended" jokes about LGBTQ people were instead insulting jabs:

"Gays need to quit being pussies and not be whining about something as insignificant as bullying."

"Gay is something that kids learn from the media and programming."

"I don’t "f*cking care if I piss off some gays, because if they can take a f*cking dick up their ass...they can take a f*cking joke."

One of my favorite questions to ask political candidates seeking an editorial board's endorsement is: "Give an example of when you changed your mind on an important issue, and explain how that change came about."

For me, that issue could be same-sex marriage. As New York last week became the sixth state to approve gay marriage, I've been thinking about my own path.

Former Alaska governor Sarah Palin will make her first stop this year in Iowa on Tuesday to attend the screening of a biopic about her life in elected office.

Palin’s visit comes roughly 24 hours after Minnesota Rep. Michele Bachmann formally announced her presidential candidacy in Waterloo, Iowa, and Texas Rep. Ron Paul wooed voters in Des Moines.

I cried a tear of joy this weekend as New York became the sixth U.S. state to offer its gay and lesbian citizens marriage equality. When Massachusetts made marriage equality the law of its land in 2004, it was historic. When Iowa did it in 2009, it was a shocker. Iowa? Really? But, when New York did it this past weekend - I predict it will be remembered as the tipping point.

I wanted to get mad, but I couldn't. I wanted to be hurt, but I wasn't.

For a moment I considered joining the small band of hecklers in the crowd during President Obama's speech at a New York fundraiser targeting the LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender) community, but I knew better.