There is nothing that can reduce an otherwise well adjusted, intelligent adult to an awkward, irrational mess like sex. As if “just doing it” wasn’t complicated enough, navigating the before and after is a little like trying to make your way through a maze in the dark after having forty three margaritas. The bottom line is you often end up horribly confused with a bunch of bush in your face and not a whole lot else to show for it. I’m not sure why it’s so complicated. It’s supposed to be natural, instinctual, scientific even but all too often it just ends up being a bit of a mess.
In light of my own fiascos, most often concerning the “morning after” I’ve decided to try and break sex (and the politics) down into it’s component parts. My hope being that through analysis I will be able to uncover something that will not result in me lying in people’s beds like a piece of driftwood hoping for some kind of natural disaster to strike. Providing the perfect cover for me to rush out the door before they wake up.
The first and most basic question when it comes to sex is “when the hell are we going to do this thing.” Might seem pretty straightforward right? WRONG. “Apparently” THERE IS NOTHING more important than deciding when to do it. A conundrum that in my mind has become the classic catch 22. When it comes to sex, if you do it too early you’re easy or you aren’t taking the courtship seriously. On the other hand, if you do it too late you’re a tease and they might just lose interest before you finally decide to put out. I don’t know about you but this leaves me feeling a little like Goldilocks trying to figure out when the time to spread your legs is “jussssst right.”
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